Sunday, December 13, 2009

Once upon a time

What does it really mean to maintain a standard of purity?

As I look out my window this morning, the playground was full of young teens and youth. There is a mentorship program right next to my house that meets on Sundays. Today, as I looked out, I observed a scene where two youth were playing in the grass and exchanged kisses. They were young, and I was stunned at the way that they embraced especially knowing that they came from that youth mentorship. They kissed without any shame, without a care that they were outdoors in public. A young girl nearby began to fight with this bigger guy... another guy pulled her away by putting his hand around her waist.

Some good friends (Christian friends at that)think that kissing a girl means that they are only good friends exploring their options of something more serious.

What is our world coming to? I had a great conversation with my mother today about purity. She was concerned about the seeming lack of holiness and protection that we are now living with.

What fashionable clothing do you wear that is causing men to sin? My friends,

The Bible says that a man who looks at a women and lusts after her has already committed the sin in his heart?

What are we doing? Isn't the church supposed to set an example for the unbelievers in speech, dress?

Thats what I read in my Bible.

Tuesday, September 8, 2009

When good wasn't good enough

Dear sisters,

Paul exhorts his mentor Timothy in his letter recognizing the weaknesses of youth, because of the passions in our hearts. He says

"Flee the evil desires of youth, and pursue righteousness, faith. love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart." 2 Timothy 3:22

also the Psalmist writes,

"How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your Word!" Psalms 119:9

I have a confession to make to you all. All of my life I have concentrated on being the best. I felt so grateful because of the sacrifice that my LOVING SAVIOR Jesus Christ had made for me, and forever indebted myself to him. I wanted nothing else than to be indentured to him. Do you know what an indentured servant is?

Well,
An indentured servant is a slave that has been set free. They have already paid all of their debt to the master or they have been forgive their debt, and so they are set free to go. They no longer owe him anything. But this slave, for some reason, decides that he wants to continue on with his master. He (or she) chooses (of their own free will) to continue in the service of his or her master, and "indentures" him or herself to the master. This means that they are giving back the keys to him to work for him forever.

An indentured servant becomes like another member of the household. Perhaps this slave chose this life because they did not have anyone, perhaps it was because of a deep gratitude or love for the family.

Well, There was nothing I wanted more than to belong to my King> he was my best friend. I could cry and Jesus would hold me, and I could laugh for no reason, and Jesus didn't make fun of me. Jesus understood my jokes, listened when no one else would, and even shared letters, dinners and desserts with me, as well as beautiful nature and conversations.

He is the most romantic that I could ever meet, and I cherish His company more than anything.

Yet he is so ilusive and mysterious. I go looking for him sometimes and cannot find him. He keeps my interest in a crazy way, and when I least expect it surprises me with special gifts.

There is just NO ONE good enough to replace him. and I have quickly realized that all my intentions to love him, all my desire to give to him, was just never good enough. I could never give him enough,and I have broken things that I have promised him. Why, I am so enthralled and so delighted,

My friends, This God does not judge me, has not cast me away. I am not worthy of His love. He is my romantic lover and I have hurt him. Yet< He still loves me!!!

HE loves me and he is good!!!!! OUR GOOD CAN NEVER BE GOOD ENOUGH!

But He... EL SHADDAI... MIGHTY GOD... PROTECTOR . . . HeALER . . . FRIEND . . .

He is GOOD... HE IS THE ONLY ONE WHO IS GOOD!!!

The most glorious experience you could ever have, you would find in my LOVER. He is not double minded like mankind. He will not leave you ever, even though He knows all about you. Run to Him and you will never be disappointed.

Other men will never satisfy you the way He does, and as you seek him, He will bring you into the right relationships with man. He does want you to be happy and fulfilled, and He wants to know you profoundly. He waits for you to discover Him.

Monday, August 3, 2009

The first kiss

The fairy tales show it as magical.

I think of it as a promise. A promise to always love you. A promise and commitment. A statement to all the witnesses. It is a statement of belonging.

Magical? Well, I am not practiced. But I am proud of that. I don't know that the first kiss I give away will be magical, but it will mean something significant.

There is something I have longed to give away, and more than once have naturally felt to do so, but the commitment in my heart that goes with it has held me back. My heart says no to giving that away.

Because there is one man only that I want to kiss.

I have made my mistakes. I have been in an intimate relationship with a guy before. We were very close emotionally and I have felt the warmth of a man's arms. I have felt some sort of love in my heart before, but PURE love is this...

Patient or long suffering: This means that a love that is pure will endure the hardship of the wait, and will be patient to the better of the other person.

I fulfil love in this way through enduring the harsh words of my loved ones, enduring my own errors, waiting when I feel like giving up and taking the time necessary when I'd rather just rush forward.

Kind: I love purely when I am kind to my neighbor, kind to my spouse or to my family member. A kind word or deed covers over wounds, and encourages the hearts of those I love.

Does not envy: If I am loving purely, I accept who I am and who my loved one is, without being jealous of the gifts God has given him or her. If I love my husband/boyfriend I will not envy the job they have, their taste, I will not try to possess them or be in control of them. I will be able to accept who they are without trying to be better than them.

Is not proud or boastful: If I have pure love, I will not try to put myself higher than my loved ones. Pure love is humble rather than boastful. If I love purely, I will esteem the other person instead of just singing my own praises to try to get attention. I will not need to try to get attention because my pure love generates love from the other person. Pure love gives of itself freely without requiring payment.

Is not selfish, easily provoked or full of vengeance: Pure love is based in a source that refills. A pure love is given not out of obligation which requires a response. Pure love does not get angry for a trivial reason, or a silly reason, and it does not think evil towards the other person.

PURE love Always hopes, always believes, always endures, and NEVER FAILS!

To find more about Pure love look in 1 Corinthians 13 of the Word of God. There is a great description. Pure love is not easily given but God gives that towards us. Pure love and perfect love does not have any fear, rather it causes fear to vanish!

A pure love is the kind of love that I want. I have it in Jesus Christ my Savior. Should He provide for me another love, a physical love, in this world, I want him to model this love, and that I would model the same for him.

My attempt to guard the first kiss for this man has been idealistic, magical and romantic.

But, that being said, I want my first kiss to make a statement to the world. This... this one... This is the man with which I want to spend the rest of my days.

You think I can make it until that day?

Saturday, July 11, 2009

Waiting for Mr. Right...

While you have been waiting to be noticed by Mr. Right, Mr. Nice Guy finds you. And for the first time in a long time, you feel appreciated. You feel loved. You feel like a woman. Although He doesn’t have some of the qualities you are looking for, he is a gentleman. He pays attention to you and listens to you. He continuously pursues you and waits for you. All in all, he is high quality. Truly a great guy. And there is something in you that craves that relationship. And let’s be honest, the sexual tension. The joking. The playful banter. The excitement of getting to know someone… They all have the power to sway us. And perhaps, persuade us to settle for Mr. Nice and give up on the wait for Mr. Right. . . Mr. Nice is here.

It is so frustrating to try and keep yourself away from Mr. Nice… Those little things are so easily overlooked. Yet those little things can become huge problems.

I dated a Mr. Nice once. I told him up front, I wasn’t interested. He stuck around anyway. He pursued me through friendship. And eventually, I caved. Mr. Nice seemed pretty great and I just wanted to give it a try. Mr. Nice was great first… But eventually, after some agonizing months. .. I realized, Mr. Nice was Mr. Wrong for Me. And after I ended it with him, I faced some painful months and years.

So how is it, then, that Mr. Nice has found me again? In fact, I think he might be Mr. Wonderful. I just don’t think I can ignore a second time that little voice inside me that says… “He isn’t Mr. Right”. But that voice is so often quieted by the ones that point out how honest, and kind he is. And all of his other positive traits. No matter that He isn’t the man I’d always dreamed of…He pursues me… so why am I resisting again??

Dreams can be complex. See some dreams you can chase. And some you just have to wait for. Like, my dream has always been to be a wife and mother… over every other dream I’ve ever had… and that dream just likes to stay out of reach. Now, I could grab onto it by grabbing onto Mr. Nice… but then that dream may not be all that great, right? No. I’ve gotta wait for Mr. Right. And maybe someday that dream may come true…

Somehow, I must flee from all of the Mr. Nice Guys out there…and there are many… And wait for Mr. Right. Just because a relationship can be good, doesn’t mean it will be great…and great is what I’m praying for. Great is what I’m waiting for. Because good just isn’t good enough.

~Anonymous

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Longing

The longing for what is right should protect and keep us. It should be the thing that keeps you from evil but it is not enough to have the longing. You also need the power of God. He is the one who keeps you safe. The power of God gives you wisdom as well. :)

I believe I am falling in love. The standards of purity are taken even higher and my challenge is greater. The question is whether or not I am really in love. Or whether it is just a longing deeply hidden yet awakened in my soul.

A pure heart is the desire of my heart. It is my longing. Along with that desire, another fire is also alive.

The chance to be in a loving relationship is a beautiful thought. However, I surrender all of those desires to my maker. It is tough because he is beautiful. He is exactly what I want in a guy. It must be for this reason that the word of God tells us not to awaken love prematurely. IT is still premature. I am in awe of the love of God. I am humbled and amazed by His hand. If he has taken me this far, I have no doubt he can take me the rest of the way.

But we must wait on him. Rely on him. I have made mistakes along the way. Clearly I am an imperfect person. However, I have to trust God, its the only thing I have.

My Saviour sees into the depths of my heart.

I know that He knows the future. Today, I must live to what He has asked of me, and not overthink tomorrow.

I lay down my desires and longings, in a desperate pursual of my Maker.

Sunday, February 22, 2009

About the danger of man

Girls,

I just want to tell you to be careful. The people who are around you do not always have your best in mind. Sometimes it takes experiencing something scary to realize the condition of man.

We as human kinds live under a curse. But Jesus did come to redeem us from that curse. However, we are not all the same, but there are many who do not live under this redemption.

A fight for purity requires recognition of who you are first. To know that you deserve honor, respect, and that you are a daughter of the Most High and only God. When you realize that the love of Yhwh caused your creation, and that in his great love and desire for relationship with you he formed you, You will be so encouraged!

Because your life is of so much value, you need to guard it, becuase this world is full of enemies of God who desire to see the downfall of his people. But God so loved us that He sent his son to redeem us and bring us back to right relation with him, and the enemies of this world are unable to steal that from us.

I want you to know that the value of a pure heart costs ALOT. You will have to give up your earthly and fleshly desires to obtain it and have patience in all your relationships.

I have made many mistakes by trusting a man who was not interested in anything except for winning me. It took me many mistakes and years to realize that all these guys were really motivated in their heart by sex. They, perhaps, did not realize it themselves (just to give them the benefit of the doubt) but they showed me by their actions a lack of respect and an impatience which meant they only wanted one thing which I was by no means gonna give them.

Men can often be ruled by this insatiable desire to win a women, even if that means, kissing her or getting something from her and being the "first."

Women can be just as bad sometimes. They fight for the most "desirable" man and try to get his attention from things that they say.

I know that I am speaking very directly with you, but if you can realize that even a GOOD guy will fail and sometimes seek you for WRONG ReASONS you will be ahead of the game.

There is a women spoken of by a famous king, Solomon, who is worth more than RUBIES! What kind of woman does he talk about? Is it the one with the best skin? The one with the prettiest eyes or body? NO!!!!! He says that the woman who is worth more than rubies depended upon her CHARACTER! This specific one I am talking about is a women who is of a gentle and quiet spirit. He says that a "quarrelsome" women (one that likes to fight alot) is VERY STINKY. (joanna paraphrase)

So... all that to say. I am going to share a poem with you that I wrote. I was deceived a few times and the year was 2005. I trusted when I should have not given trust. There is great wisdom in this verse,
"Be wise as serpents, but innocent as doves." It is good to be innocent, ladies, but do not be unwise. Use your mind that God gave you and RUN from temptation.

I love you guys SO much and hope that you realize the respect you deserve and DEMAND it because you are not weak, but God has given you the authority necessary, and he has protected me, he will also protect you!!!!

These are very personal poems, but I share them for your benefit and so that you can learn from me. LOVE TO YOU! BE CAREFUL!

February 11, 2009

4 yrs have past
3 yrs, 9 months and 26 days to be exact.

It was one night, climactical
Not a night I cherish
Nor one I like to think upon
The effects this has on my future?
My biggest failure

Led to an almost identical experience
Almost 7 months later
WHY?
Truly a good question

God is gracious
Of this I'm sure
He led me to safety
From the devil's lure
The thing I treasured most
He tried to steal

I will not give up
Although his stealing hands
Try to grasp what is mine

My Father's love for me
Stills the anxiety
The pain and the loss
I take my cross

________________________

A Kiss

A kiss
Denied & Won thru deception

A touch
Not willingly given but taken by force

The force
Of his arms and hands

His warmth
My strength cannot compare

A trick
Older men and younger

Take away
And do not give worth

.... These poems are very sad, perhaps more so for me, because I lived them. YOU DON'T HAVE TO!!!!

Even though I lived these, I still came out strong and victorious because God protected me from the devil and what these men tried to steal they were UNABLE!!! THANK YOU GOD!!!!!!

They did steal my pride and dignity, but the grace of God helped me not to guard bitterness and also to realize that I still came out victorious because I said no in the face of temptation. And even though I did not get 100 percent on these tests of my strength and actually saw my weakness instead, it gave me a much greater appreciation and understanding of God's grace and love!!! He is so good and I love hiM!!!!

Girls, don't forget that the love of Jesus Christ for us is so much more beautiful than the false lust of an over eager boy. His love will lead us to that which is perfect and right if we WAIT!!!

LOTS OF HUGS! hope to hear from you!

Monday, February 9, 2009

A secret love

Just remember that there are no secrets before God. There was nothing hidden that will not be made known. :)

I have a secret.
There was this girl. Her name was _____________. you'll figure who. :) She always wanted to find love. She used to seek the love of her friends. She'd do her hair just a certain way to fit in with them.

She didn't have much money, but when she got to buy a new outfit, she always chose what would be most stylish, and proudly wore it every chance she could without it being "too often."

Then it happened.
One of her friends, with whom she always shared the most of her time and she loved her, suddenly started acting different to her. This friend stopped inviting her over to stay the night, and she noticed this friend was getting really close to another girl.
__________ felt sad. This girl didn't come to her house anymore. _________felt rejected.

Maybe you feel like you could fit in this this category. But I have a secret.


There is ONE who loves you more than you could imagine. He is the One and Only. He sent his son Jesus into the world as a human being. Jesus, although being in very nature God, left his position in the heavens and came to earth as a man. He made himself nothing. (Phillipians 2)

His love is the best kept secret of mankind. His awesome love breaks power of death, brings new life, heals from disease, restores brokenness. He gives all we need and promises to be with us always (Jsh 1:9)

May your love for him shine like the stars.

"What can mortal man do to you?" Trust in God! Psalms 56:4

Matthew 16:26 "What can a man give in exchange for his soul?"

Don't forget this promise: NO ONE can steal away from you the FATHER's LOVE

Knowing this has transformed my life.

Friday, January 30, 2009

HOW DO YOU USE YOUR MOUTH

"Do not let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity." 1 Tim. 4:12

Hey girlfriends. :)

I wanted to start with this very important aspect of purity.

We as women, can be so quick to speak. We like to talk about everything from our favorite colors, pets, and cute guys and lets not forget the hideous thing so and so was wearing...too.

Well. In this blog, I will share with you why I believe it is important to be careful with how you talk, what the Holy Bible has to say about it, and how you can use your mouth in a healthy way!

I have some wonderful friends. You see, being 26, several of my friends are now married ladies. Because they are married, they are living a very different lifestyle than I am, and have not always been careful about what they say. One night, a particularly great friend called me and was talking to me about marriage. She started sharing all kinds of things about the "hanky panky," by that I mean...sex... girls. Yeah. I had to ask her to please refrain from talking about such things with me, for although she was happily married, I was not, and I felt impure hearing about such things.

The Bible says in Ephesians 4:29,
"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may BENEFIT those who LISTEN."

In other words, ladies, Paul is telling the church in Ephesus, Do not use "potty talk" as my mom says to her little daycare kids... Do not SLANDER others around you. If you want to live a pure life, Your tongue must be the first to watch, for you will find that this small part of the body... is the most difficult to control of all things. (James 1:26)

Ladies, you are often itching to share whats on your mind. You desire the close intimacy of your girlfriends. Be careful! How many times have you torn down another girl just to be placed higher in the eyes of the other girls in your youth group, class or other social gathering?
Speak truthfully to your neighbor(friend) Ephesians 4:25,
Refrain from SLANDER or COURSE JOKING Ephesians 5:3-4

The Word says that "Out of the overflow of the heart... the mouth speaks." Matthew 12:34

If you have any questions, please write me. I would like to talk with you!!!

childofYAH@gmail.com

Love
Joanna Joy Finkenbinder

welcome sisters!

My dear friend,

Welcome to a blog I have made to share with all my sisters out there who are in the fight to live a pure life.

My aim and purpose in life has been this very thing, that God might be honored with my life and everything I do. I have fallen more and more in love with Him throughout this journey, and I want to share some of the principles I have learned with you, to help and encourage you in your walk.

I also want to encourage you to engage in comments with me or let me know if you need to talk. I want to help you however possible with whatever questions you might have.

There are those who I have personally invited to participate in this blog, and then there are those who maybe are joining this, but do not know who I am.

I would be happy to answer your questions. I am a young adult living and working currently in Costa Rica as a missionary. (You can see some of that stuff on my other blog)

My heart goes out to each of you. I desire for you healthy relationships and love. I desire that you find joy in the way that you live and the littlest heart ache possible.

Simply, I am sharing with you through this blog... something I have valued ever since I started do become adolescent, 15, and something I have committed to ever since I was in 6th grade, 12 yrs, ... PURITY.

Not always an easy task, but when you have your eyes set on the prize, and EVEN BETTER if you have the help of the Heavenly Father who loves you and the assurance of his love,

YOU WILL MAKE IT.

The Word of God teaches that "I can do all things through him who gives me strength." Phil 4:13
"If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer." Matthew 21:22

Then, my dear sisters, simply believe and you will see the mighty hand of YHWH working on your behalf. He will guide you in all you do, as you seek his help.

With much love.